girlfirend came over to my house for the first time. mackin pretty hard, got some under the clothes boob action.
before we started making out she asked why its hard for me to say "love", i asked if she feels like we need to be in love to do anything physical, i think she said kind of. i told her again on the way home that i dont want to take advantage of her and do physical stuff if she feels we need to be in love to do it. she said no im not taking advantage of her, but said kind of to the 2nd part.
its fucked up cause shes like suuuuuuuper horny and likes making out and moans n shit when im feeling her up and im sure if we took it further she would like it, but i think deep down the only reason shes ok with it is because she thinks i will fall in love with her. i have an open mind towards that, maybe i will maybe i wont, but at the present moment im not.
i will not have sex with this girl without it being very clear that im not in love. I feel like that talk is the breakup talk, and if thats what happens then so be it, im not trying to hurt this girl but god dam i want to lose my virginity.
Most dudes in your situation would probably lie, fuck, and gtfo. I had something similar. I started dating this girl when I was 17 (both virgins) and we waited a whole year until we had sex. We felt that it was the right thing to do at the time, but looking back... We just laugh and say that we were young and dumb and should've just done it. DO IT
i have not and will not say i love you to her. shes a super sweet girl and is pretty innocent, i know it would fuck her up if i did some shit like that. its not me thats the one that doesnt want to fuck lol, i would fuck her right now. she is a pretty nervous person and has to take physical stuff a bit slower.
i had a convo over text with her like rn basically about how her friend asked if i say i love you to her. and i said, im not in love, that it takes time to fall in love. she said soomething about if ive ever had crushes and fallen in love with a girl. and i replied with i think love is much deeper than that. she pretty much started to agree with me, but i cant tell if she actually agrees or if shes just saying that to avoid confrontation on the subject.
anyway, i asked if she was in love, she said why. i said because i feel like you are, and im not , so i feel like im in a position too take advantage of her and hurt her. she replied with she doesnt need my pity, i replied with its not pity i genuinely care about her feelings (i do). she asked if i wanted to take it slow. i said i just feel like we shouldnt be forcing the relationship to that level emotionally. i even told her that physically, i dont care about taking it slow, and that i know thats fucked up but its a guy thing lol....
she says she understanding what im saying and getting it, but im still kinda skeptical
