Yep, kind of bummed because I thought he was going to do something. I wouldn't have even cared what it was. Just something.
The Official Girl Help/Issue/Talk Thread 2: Re-Entry
you two are dating, you're not engaged, he doesn't have your kid correct? where in that is an obligation for any sort of mothers day acknowledgement, let alone a diamond?
Edit: reading that back it sounds really, really mean and I didn't want to sound that way. But you get what Im saying right? you two may be serious and you may be a mother, but it isn't a mother to his child if I remember correctly. In my opinion that just doesn't warrant some sort of special gift or something. Maybe I'm way wrong though who knows.
you two are dating, you're not engaged, he doesn't have your kid correct? where in that is an obligation for any sort of mothers day acknowledgement, let alone a diamond?
he mentioned diamonds... Not me. And a simple acknowledgement is not much to ask for. I've had childless friends acknowledge it and let me know. It's just a nice thing to do and something I thought he would do. The way he talked about it made it sound he had something or planned something and it turned out not to be the case so I'm naturally kind of bummed.
Just saw your edit. To clarify my end, I don't expect a special gift. But he kind of talked it up like he was going to get me diamonds (or something). I accepted that wasn't going to happen but then he came home and didn't even tell me anything. Instead it's been focused on his sexual needs and what he wants to the point that I've had to swat him away several times. Even letting him know that I feel like prey trying to get away from an animal and to please stop. He's still insisting. He starts fiddling with my boobs and I tell him to stop, that they hurt and then he starts in again because of his sex drive being in overdrive today.
I just would like *something* to be about me. This is supposed to be my selfish day and it just hasn't entered his brain at all.
Dinner "etiquette" rules question:
Went out to eat with boyfriend and 3 of his coworkers+one of their girlfriends. We arrive last after everyone has sat down so that its my boyfriend, 2 coworkers across, and then a coworker and his girlfriend to my right. The coworkers across acknowledged the arrival and said hey (I already hung out with one) and then on my side they completely ignored me. They didn't say hey, shake hands or nice to meet you, etc. completely ignored me and throughout the entire dinner. Between my boyfriend talking to his two coworkers about work nothing was even said to me until almost an hour into the dinner by one of the guys across the table that I had only met in passing but at least he tried to include me.
Is this considered rude behavior? I also thought it was weird that my boyfriend wanted me to sit next to one guy because he's Irish because otherwise it would all be Dutch (ignoring the fact that they ALL speak English). It didn't work out like that and I was completely on my own for two hours (the couple did manage to speak English to the Irish guy across the table). I told my boyfriend how it made me feel later but he blew it off and said it wasn't rude at all. But I know if it was me and my friends they would all do some variation of hello/what's up/my name is../nice to meet you or at least try and have a conversation.
Thoughts? I start soon so I know I'm emotional as it is but this is the second time I've seen this one couple in particular and they've completely ignored me then too. Otherwise, all the other coworkers I've met have loved me, friends on Facebook, and we have legitimate chats. Feeling slighted by these people in particular and boyfriend is making me feel crazy about it.
"Dinner etiquette" rules question. . . Is this considered rude behavior? . . I told my boyfriend how it made me feel later but he blew it off and said it wasn't rude at all.
My boyfriend wanted me to sit next to one guy because. . . because. . .
what
was this the same meal u almost pooed urself on the way to the bathroom
Well how many times did you turn to them and initiate conversation? Did you introduce yourself and they looked at you and then just pretended you didn't say anything? How is it that you were ignored for 2 hours when you were (hopefully) trying to participate in the conversations or bring up a topic of your own? If you just sat there and simply waited for them to reach out to you, then I don't think you have much to say here. I find it hard to believe you told them your name and went for a handshake or something and they looked past you or something.
I'm not saying it's all on you obviously, but it's a 2 way street. Couldn't they be saying the same things about you right now? "We had dinner and our coworker brought his girlfriend but she didn't really say a word at all. Just sat there for hours..."
They didn't/wouldn't look at me. That was the awkward part and made it impossible for me to say anything to them. The guy next to me was turned towards his girlfriend the entire time. When we sat down the guys across looked at me and we said hello's and later talked a bit more when the awkward couple left.
this is the second time I've run into them when it's been the same situation. It was awkward as fuck.
And yeah, PM it was that dinner lol. I think I'll make a future point to just not eat with them or make sure different people are there to sit with that I like.
i think that maybe the couple was ignoring you because they were worried anything they said or did would cause you to freak the fuck out like everything else seems to make you do.
this is the kind of attitude that makes me hate coming here. I experience really bad anxiety on my own when I'm not dealing with past traumas (currently ongoing). I don't have much control sometimes and look for support and rationalization from others. I don't detail everything that goes on in my life so it might look like I'm constantly spiraling out of control but I'm not.
Simply put, your input and past advice has been counterintuitive and mean. I'm looking for support not some asshole to judge me for things out of my fucking control.
Leaving for the time being to focus on my emotional wellbeing. OT: thank you to the people that genuinely have been supportive; I know you know who you are.
its just hard supporting someone who has literally ignored all advice from anyone and continues to get upset at outrageously trivial things. you can't seriously expect a ton of college aged males to support you in times where "people ignore you" and when "he didn't say happy Mother's Day" or when he does cocaine one single instance. we all have a lot of shit on our plate that we deal with, and if things start sincerely affecting our lives then we come to this forum for support. You've just turned this thread into a "MstK mental health/discussion thread" where you post these obvious signs that you didn't listen to anything anyone has said about your situations for the past year.
i genuinely do hope you find some inner peace from your forum hiatus, however I think a break from your relationship would be more beneficial
its just hard supporting someone who has literally ignored all advice from anyone and continues to get upset at outrageously trivial things. you can't seriously expect a ton of college aged males to support you in times where "people ignore you" and when "he didn't say happy Mother's Day" or when he does cocaine one single instance. we all have a lot of shit on our plate that we deal with, and if things start sincerely affecting our lives then we come to this forum for support. You've just turned this thread into a "MstK mental health/discussion thread" where you post these obvious signs that you didn't listen to anything anyone has said about your situations for the past year.
i genuinely do hope you find some inner peace from your forum hiatus, however I think a break from your relationship would be more beneficial
QFT
Had a fun time on my date. Girl was really nice. We talked for 3 hours after dinner, and both had a great time...yet she doesn't really want to go out again. Not compatible and what not.
Sucks, as that was a different vibe than I was getting, but what can you do?
Damn that's weird that she would bother with a three hour chat after dinner and then have nothing come of it. Bummer dude
Well in situations like that, it probably had to do with the sexual attraction. She seems to have enjoyed him as a person but maybe how he carried himself, the way he spoke, confidence in person, whether or not he made a move if she did or didn't want it etc., could all be factors as to why she didn't want to see him again. She also probably has enough friends already.
