Well, if you come on too strong you run girls off and what nots.
The Official Girl Help/Issue/Talk Thread 2: Re-Entry
It's just a general rule of thumb. Pretty sure everyone does it. I don't think anyone wants to hear, I love you let's be exclusive after like 2 or 3 dates and texting every 30 minutes. I'm just talking about not rushing into something, not responding to a text immediately, etc. I mean, every girl is different to some degree though. Still trying to feel each other out right now, going out tomorrow night.
How old are you again? You sound really young.
I show my interest and respond accordingly, if someone is busy and can't then "okay". But if I knew the guy was purposely holding back on showing his interest because of some mental game it would piss me off.
I remember that shit in my teen years. I always dated older guys because I wasn't into those games. I don't know why you would want to play them either. That sounds like unnecessary hell to put yourself through.
It's just a general rule of thumb. Pretty sure everyone does it. I don't think anyone wants to hear, I love you let's be exclusive after like 2 or 3 dates and texting every 30 minutes. I'm just talking about not rushing into something, not responding to a text immediately, etc. I mean, every girl is different to some degree though. Still trying to feel each other out right now, going out tomorrow night.
So, I think I'm "non traditionally" engaged. I think I made that up, but I'm engaged!
He asked me while we were laying in bed after staring at me forever. I started crying, he thought something was wrong but it was endless happy tears. I made him ask me 3 more times before sappy sex.
This isn't a story I can tell my parents so I can finally admit it to someone. We looked at rings in Antwerp a month ago so we're going to look again and he's going to propose again with the ring in a romantic way. Not very traditional but I'm excited and happy.
Congrats! Ring shopping is so fun. Michel and I are going to get Bvlgari but because it's so specialized we had only found one place in Vancouver that sells them and they require appointments and stupid things but on our way to Mexico there was a Bvlgari store in the airport and they were cheaper than what we were expecting so we're super stoked. We will need to buy another plane ticket to get through there though cause it's past security. Not that I'd mind another trip to Mexico, lol.
Eh I feel like you're rushing into this
You don't know my relationship or the extent of our feelings. We've been together almost 2 years now and have gone through extreme highs and lows that I don't post about on here. He applied for a job in Austin this last month and will be giving up his country and family for the move. He's 31, I'm almost 27. We won't be getting married until I'm finished with school ~2yrs from now. We've had extensive talks about our future regarding marriages, kids, jobs, finances, expectations.
I posted a rant while fucked up on birth control a month ago and exaggerated things because of unrelated stress hanging over my head at the time. That was fixed and I'm off the birth control (it turns me into a mess).
I feel closer than ever to him and I know what we both want. I don't feel like I've rushed anything, I've turned down these things before when I felt hesitation. I don't feel that this time. This is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and vice versa. My parents also know and are happy, and they would be the first to voice their concerns if they were concerned or worried. Instead they're excited, and my dad loves my boyfriend.
So there's that.
Just went back and read, and no I wasn't going to break up with him. I just hadn't talked about the sex issues with him and came here seeking advice.
we got past that within a week tho, total change in him and I feel sexually satisfied. Sex is important to me, I also wouldn't commit if I wasn't sexually satisfied. Btdt.
Congrats! Ring shopping is so fun. Michel and I are going to get Bvlgari but because it's so specialized we had only found one place in Vancouver that sells them and they require appointments and stupid things but on our way to Mexico there was a Bvlgari store in the airport and they were cheaper than what we were expecting so we're super stoked. We will need to buy another plane ticket to get through there though cause it's past security. Not that I'd mind another trip to Mexico, lol.
Those are pretty. :O When we were in Antwerp I felt like an idiot because I hadn't given much thought about rings. I got so overwhelmed with all things pretty and sparkly. One of the girls helping us put a setting on me and then put a 20k eu loose diamond on. "Oh that seems a little bit big but that looks nice. How much is that diamond?" "... Just 20,000eu" almost died, made me sick and my hand started getting wobbly lol. We have a nice budget but god damn. -_-
when a mind is so far out there, can anyone compare?
So, I think I'm "non traditionally" engaged. I think I made that up, but I'm engaged!
He asked me while we were laying in bed after staring at me forever. I started crying, he thought something was wrong but it was endless happy tears. I made him ask me 3 more times before sappy sex.
This isn't a story I can tell my parents so I can finally admit it to someone. We looked at rings in Antwerp a month ago so we're going to look again and he's going to propose again with the ring in a romantic way. Not very traditional but I'm excited and happy.
congrats!
When you guys are first talking to a girl online, what do you say? I usually just stick with the common, hey, hello, hows it going. But my sister says that's not the "right" way to do it and girls won't respond to one word approaches which I think is BS. I just think it's sad girls will respond to a guy who will approach them as a douchebag who starts off being rude or sexualizing them in any way.
So if I want a response I'm suppose to find an amazing never before pickup line to have her respond? I feel like that's asking too much. If a girl messages me and I find her attractive, I'll respond back no matter if it's the boring "hey". And I want your opinion too Allison
When you guys are first talking to a girl online, what do you say? I usually just stick with the common, hey, hello, hows it going. But my sister says that's not the "right" way to do it and girls won't respond to one word approaches which I think is BS. I just think it's sad girls will respond to a guy who will approach them as a douchebag who starts off being rude or sexualizing them in any way.
So if I want a response I'm suppose to find an amazing never before pickup line to have her respond? I feel like that's asking too much. If a girl messages me and I find her attractive, I'll respond back no matter if it's the boring "hey". And I want your opinion too Allison
There's another vagina here too, you know.
Anyway I think it depends on the girl, and honestly it sounds like you wouldn't want the kind of girl that requires some sort of "special" pick up line, so those who don't respond are just making it easier for you to weed out the ones that aren't going to work out anyway. If something specific about them/their profile sticks out and you can make a comment or ask a question without sounding like a total weirdo--go for it, otherwise a "hey, ____?" should be fine. If the girl thinks you're attractive, she'll respond.
When you guys are first talking to a girl online, what do you say? I usually just stick with the common, hey, hello, hows it going. But my sister says that's not the "right" way to do it and girls won't respond to one word approaches which I think is BS. I just think it's sad girls will respond to a guy who will approach them as a douchebag who starts off being rude or sexualizing them in any way.
So if I want a response I'm suppose to find an amazing never before pickup line to have her respond? I feel like that's asking too much. If a girl messages me and I find her attractive, I'll respond back no matter if it's the boring "hey". And I want your opinion too Allison
lol
I agree with Dawn. Girls are into different things and will respond accordingly. There's not just one way to picking up girls. I wouldn't listen to your sister unless you're wanting to date her. Sounds like she's telling you how she prefers it. O:)
i respond better and quicker to general conversation. Pick up lines/sex talk makes me "lol" or it goes 0-100 creep level quick. I wouldn't change your tactics if you're not into it, you'll have to keep the charades up and it's not very organic.
Ive tried all sorts of approaches and the hey's havent proven well at all. It did seem to work almost too well for a female friend of mine while we were in Rome. Her hey's would escalate to meet ups within a half hour
Throw in a flirt and a joke and a question in relation to their profile, rinse repeat
Those were the answers I was hoping for. I didn't really agree with my sister's opinion but she kind of has a point to that a girl will respond to more than just a "hey". Which I understand but some girls put in their bios or descriptions "will not respond to one word comments" or whatever. Have fun finding your prince charming. I think that's asking a bit too much. Im not much of a pick up line kind of person, especially over the internet. If she's interested she will talk, if not shes not the one. I don't know why some want so much for doing nothing. But what bugs me is girls will match with me or whatever on these dating websites then I send them a message and they won't respond. What's the point then? And I'm not talking about the bots or fake profiles either
